At what point in your life have you compared yourself with others?
What has made you say, “I will never be able to (sing, act, paint, write, run, kick, score, pitch, speak, draw, teach, etc.) like that? I might as well chuck in the towel now, because I’ll never be that good.”
It happens to writers often. We read a book or passage and think, “That is so well written. I could never have created something like that. Maybe I should just set down my pen (or laptop) right now.”
At the CanWrite conference in Toronto, Canada on the weekend, keynote speaker Alissa York addressed this issue. She said that comparing our fledgling writing projects to completed gems is like comparing an apple seed to an apple pie. If we spend our time drooling over someone else’s pie, we ignore our own seeds. Better to spend our time, she suggested, planting our own seeds in good soil, watering them, placing them in the sun, watching over them and nurturing them. Doing so allows our apple seeds to grow into mature trees that bear fruit with which to make our own version of a delicious pie.
And all the while we are helping our seeds to transform, we can also dig in and enjoy those other pies, instead of wasting time drooling over them.
Bon appétit
Too often, about too many things, especially when it comes to my art. I have to keep reminding myself I am me and my style is mine.
Yep. Honour your spirit!
Thanks for the reminder Arlene. It was so good to see you at CanWrite! Alissa York was a wonderful keynote speaker
She was a fantastic speaker. I laughed, I cried, it became a part of me . . . 🙂
Beautifully and wisely said. I’m going to sit my appleseed butt on the chair and grow a little bit more right now! 🙃
Oh, and you make some delicious pies. I have enjoyed them.