The happiness choice
“To begin with, you have to realize that you really only have one choice in this life, and it’s not about your career, whom you want to marry, or whether you want to seek God. People tend to burden themselves with so many choices. But, in the end, you can throw it all away and just make one basic underlying decision: Do you want to be happy, or do you not want to be happy? It’s really that simple.”
—Michael A. Singer in The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself
What stunning changes happened around you this summer? Did long-married friends of yours separate? Did an unexpected flower blossom in your garden from a plant that appeared out of nowhere? Has a loved one injured herself or fallen ill? Did you receive an unexpected gift of money?
We like to believe that our happiness depends upon whether we would choose or not choose the changes: separation or divorce, unhappy; beautiful flower, happy; ill loved one, unhappy; surprise money, happy.
In fact, our happiness depends on whether we choose or don’t choose the happiness.
As Michael A. Singer points out in his book, The Untethered Soul, we unnecessarily waste a lot of energy resisting:
“. . . you’re generally using your will to resist one of two things: that which has already happened or that which hasn’t happened yet. You are sitting inside resisting impressions from the past or thoughts about the future.”
We are so busy pining for the life we wish we had, that we forget to enjoy the life we actually have.
No matter what happens, may you enjoy a happy summer.