A few summers ago at our cottage, I sat at the kitchen table with my then 15-year-old daughter, my niece, my nephews and my brother-in-law. While we sat, my husband—happy and unsuspecting—came in from outside. My daughter gave him a disdainful look.
“Tucked, Dad?” she said. “You look like a goof.”
My husband, who until that instant had been perfectly happy with his wardrobe, looked down and said, “What?”
“Untuck your shirt, Dad.”
I haven’t lived as long as some, but I have lived long enough to see fashion trends circle around a time or two: tucked/untucked, platform/no platform, stiletto/flats, wide leg/skinny jeans. Each time the fashion pendulum swings back, it brings fashion that has evolved slightly from the previous version: collarless shirts/button downs, earth shoes/ballet slippers, 4-star Howicks/harem pants, etc.
My nephew had his video camera at hand, so with a room full of witnesses, I made a bet with my daughter: “Within ten years, tucked will be back in and untucked will be out.”
A few weeks later, my daughter emerged from her room wearing a pair of jeans with a belt and a shirt—tucked in.
“Your tucked, honey,” I said.
“Yeah, this shirt needs to be tucked.”
“Geez, I didn’t even need to wait ten years,” I said. “It’s already happened.”
Such a common mistake—believing that what’s now will be forever. We look around us and assume things will always be the same. We think the Berlin Wall will always stand, the Soviet Union will never dissolve, and the tattoo we ink on our skin will be meaningful for a lifetime. We underestimate our capacity to create positive change. and we forget the inevitable evolution of life and the surprising changes it creates in us.
But the pendulum swings. It always does. Evolution happens. It always does.
Have faith, get ready, and think long and hard about that tattoo.